I don’t believe I’ve ever gotten out of bed in the morning and said to myself, It’s a great day to be a heterosexual male. Seriously, who does that whether you are a man or a woman? Do we all automatically self identify when we get out of bed and go through our day? No, we are who we are. I’ve never met a single person that ever made any sort of self identification. Do gay and lesbians do that? None that I know because they, like me, are perfectly content as to who they are. Everyone lives their lives to the best they are able to at any time. N one should be prejudiced against someone for their gender, sexual orientation, or their gender identity.
I’n not prejudiced against anyone of any race or ethnicity. I learned a long time ago that the gay and lesbian community were no different than I am; Even during a time when most people would have rejected the idea completely. These same were constantly accused of being perverts and even pedophiles where the data shows that no, there’s no correlation of being homosexual to child molestation. Still, even today, there are those that believe that this is the case. It’s been a struggle for the gay/lesbian community to overcome that stigma. That shame belongs to us, those that are not gay or lesbian. Learning about a group is important.
We can all agree that racism, anti-semitism is evil, yet there are those that still believe that people that don’t look like us (white) are lesser humans than we are and that the evil Jews need to be controlled – or exterminated like termites. That to me is a terrible thing to think about in the 21st century: There are still people that refuse to accept others based on their race, ethnicity, or religion, as equals. We have a lot of work to do and I witness it everyday. It used to be common to judge people by those, including sexual orientation. Today? Not so much, but we still have those that do judge peoople based on immutable characteristics.
I’m transphobic. Well, not so much anymore because I’ve been attempting to learn about the trans community. To be perfectly upfront, all I’ve ever seen to date whether on television or on the Internet are stories that would make anyone fear this small population. Think about it. Whenever you’ve read a story about someone that’s transgendered, has it been positive or negative? I would say, in my own experience that overall those that I’ve read online, and the tiny few stories I’ve watched on television have been overall negative. Why is that?
I believe it’s because we have an innate prejudice. We can accept that an man or a woman may be attracted to the same sex, but to realize that there are people out there, within our own communities, that are biological males or females that present otherwise, is just too weird for us. It’;s a condition, described by the American Psychiatric Association as gender dysphoria. These are people, from a certain age, that are uncomfortable in their own bodies – whether that biologic body is male or female. Some actually, at a certain point, actually transition, becoming either male or female physically even though genetically they are born otherwise.
I’ve been wanting to write this for months, but have not simply because I know nothing about the transgender community other that what I’ve already said. I couldn’t believe that all of these people that are transgendered are the same, just as none of of, race, ethnic, or whatever are the same. I decided to investigate . Where do I start? Back in 2017, I ran across in my Twitter feed someone, Blaire White. She had tweeted a video about going about Los Angeles as a Trump supporter and the problems she had just walking down the street a few months after the election. What I didn’t know at the time was that Blaire is a transgendered woman. I would never have known via the video. Seriously. Go to her Twitter feed or her Youtube channel. When I discovered she was trans, I admit I experienced the “eeww” effect. But then, at that time, and until recently, I knew nothing of those “people”. Yes, that’s how I referred to them.
Eventually, I came to the realization that I either needed to reinforce my prejudice or have it expunged. I started watching Blaire’s videos, and even followed her on Twitter. See what I just did there? I discovered that Blaire was just like me. Even more interesting was her attempt, and I think she’s succeeding in blowing away the tropes that have become prevalent in society today that have people, like me, want to avoid the transgendered. In other words, I’ve been wrong to fear as I would be of any other person. Blaire does a lot to expose the phonies, the pretenders, those that she calls “fabulists” in order to show the rest of the world that no, these are no pedophiles, or rapists, or whatever, disguised.
As I was looking about, I came across another: Rose of Dawn. Wow. If you’re not subscribed to her channel and do not follow her on Twitter – this is a must. Rose does a daily podcast, and one of her favorite topics is called “Trans-Stupid” where she describes, at length, those people that claim to be transgendered that do nothing to advance with the general public that trans men or women are normal, but instead shows what prevents us, the general public from coming to that understanding. It’s an incredible Youtube site if you’re, like me, looking for more information.
So now, I can’t, at least for these now, refer to them as “trans”. I no longer believe that. I have to come to the understanding that someone may be born genetically one way, and be the other. I think there are fakers there as there are in everything. Don’t believe me? Watch either (or both!) of these channels. They expose the bad. Rose is particularly harsh and I think you’ll love the English expressions (yes she’s in England).
Anyone noticed anything here? I just referred to two genetic males as “she”. I think I believe it. Maybe now, I’m not transphobic – at least not too much – because I’ve found some that want to, need to, put to rest what most of us have been led to believe is transgenderism. Maybe it’s okay for me, and you, to view those that are transgendered as who they are – whether male or female. I wont refer to Blaire or Rose as transgendered anymore. They are women, no matter what their genetics declare. It’s still something I don’t completely understand, but I know that the more I invest into learning about those, the better, the understanding, the less prejudice prevails.
None of this means that everyone that claims to be transgendered should be accepted. Again, go to both of the Youtube sites I linked and learn. Some fakers. Some that will declare their toddler as transgendered. Wait until you see what these two have to say about that!
I think we need more sensible people coming out, those that are transgendered, to speak out, come out, and dispel the myths the media have us believe. Neither blaire nor Rose rise in the morning and say to themselves, It’s great to be a trans-woman. Just like the rest of the world, that doesn’t get out of bed and immediately consider their sexuality or anything else. It’s probably, just like what I do, with my daughter. who asks every morning ”What’s for breakfast?”