Should non-trans people be more accepting of dating or having a relationship with a transgender person? That seems to be the question in this essay from Psychology Today. The eassy begins with some statistics from a survey that shows 87.5 % of a survey prefer to date someone that is considered (in the survey) as cisgendered men or women. The title of the essay mostly tells the reader what the author thinks about this issue: Are Trans People Excluded from the World of Dating? Using the verb excluded is charged and is used in one form or another multiple times in the essay.
I think that the idea that individuals make their own honest assessments as to who they prefer to be with is unacceptable to this author and is the cause for most of the trauma that the transgender population goes through. In fact, it’s actually stated:
But, if very few people are willing to date trans people, what does this mean for their health and well-being?
Probably nothing more than for anyone else, but that’s not the purpose of this essay. The purpose appears to be that society should be more inclusive:
What is the solution? Improving general knowledge and understanding concerning the diversity of gender identities and what each identity means may go a long way in increasing inclusion.
Prejudice is to blame. That may in fact be true, but does that have anything to do with an individual’s personal choices as to whom they prefer to date? Is this author saying that we should place aside any and all of our preferences to make trans people more comfortable? It seems to me that this essay is nothing more than a soft accusation of bigotry. That a biological male may prefer another biological male or female is not prejudice, it’s who they are, plain and simple.