I saw something recently on Twitter that has me thinking about a previous post about transgenderism. What bothered me about this tweet was what was said: 98% of straight men will not date trans women because of hate.. Sorry, what? Whenever I see a statement like this, I often wonder the genesis of it. Of course, I’ve found no data to back this up – like a poll of straight men. There may be one, but does it indicate hate as being the reason? There may be that level of prejudice, then again, there might be another reason why straight men refuse to date a transgender woman.
Just off the top of my head, could it be that straight men don’t want to date those they consider biological males? I know that any minute now, just by asking that question, someone will try and cancel me, but it makes sense, at least to me. I don’t hold any particular phobia towards the trans community, at least I don’t believe so, but personally, it would never occur to me to date a trans woman. that doesn’t make trans women bad, in my mind, nor should it give anyone the impression that I hate them. I have no interest in the same way I look at homosexuality: I’m not interested, romantically or any other way, in other men. That there are gay and lesbian couples is fine with me. I don’t believe that I should somehow be shamed for making my own choice.
If you didn’t see online what I am referring to, here’s a screen capture I performed:
So what does the Trans Rights Campaign believe that this accomplishes? I can’t see anything that it does to possibly change anyone’s mind about who they choose to date. Do they believe that straight men should be forced to date trans women against their will? Would they say the same about gay men dating straight women or lesbian women dating straight men? I doubt it and yet these too could be called bigotry, couldn’t they?
With all the work that many trans activists are doing online to be accepted, I don’t think something like this does anything to help and may in fact, do more harm than good.